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Understanding and Helping ADHD Children Meet Expectations

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects millions of children worldwide. While it is well-known for symptoms like inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity, the challenges faced by ADHD children often extend beyond these core symptoms. One common aspect of their struggle is their difficulty in meeting certain expectations placed upon them by parents, teachers, and society. This article explores the expectations that ADHD children find challenging, the underlying reasons for their struggles, and a therapeutic approach to help them enhance essential executive functions through the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions model by Dr. Ross Greene.


1. Expectations ADHD Children Have Difficulty Meeting


ADHD children face a myriad of expectations, both at home and in school, which can be challenging for them to meet. These expectations typically revolve around three main areas:


a. Academic Performance:

i. Sustained Attention: One of the primary challenges for ADHD children is sustaining attention during lectures, reading assignments, or completing homework.

ii. Organization and Time Management: These skills are essential for keeping track of assignments, deadlines, and classroom materials, but they can be significantly impaired in children with ADHD.

iii. Impulse Control: ADHD children may struggle with blurting out answers, interrupting classmates, or being disruptive in the classroom, making it hard to meet expectations for classroom behavior.


b. Behavioural Expectations:

i. Self-Control: ADHD children may have difficulty regulating their impulses and emotions, leading to outbursts, tantrums, or difficulties in following rules and routines.

ii. Social Skills: Forming and maintaining friendships can be challenging due to difficulties in reading social cues and regulating their behavior in social situations.

iii. Independence: Parents and teachers often expect children to become more self-sufficient as they grow, but ADHD children may lag behind in developing skills related to independence, such as dressing themselves, managing personal hygiene, and taking on responsibilities.


c. Household Responsibilities:

i. Chores and Responsibilities: Like their academic and behavioural expectations, children with ADHD may struggle with tasks like cleaning their rooms, completing chores, and following routines at home.

ii. Time Management: Keeping track of time and following a daily schedule can be particularly challenging for ADHD children when it comes to activities like getting ready for school or bedtime routines.


2. Why ADHD Children Struggle to Meet These Expectations


ADHD children's difficulties in meeting expectations stem from a complex interplay of factors related to their neurobiology and cognitive functioning. Here are some of the key reasons why they may struggle:


a. Lagging Skills in Executive Functions:


Executive functions are higher-order cognitive skills responsible for planning,organisingg, initiating tasks, shifting focus, and regulating emotions. ADHD children often exhibit a substantial lag in the development of these executive functions, which contributes to their difficulties in meeting expectations.


i. Impaired Working Memory: ADHD children may have difficulty holding and manipulating information in their working memory, making it challenging to follow multi-step instructions or remember tasks.

ii. Poor Inhibition Control: Impulsivity is a hallmark feature of ADHD. Children with ADHD may struggle to inhibit automatic responses or control impulsivebehaviourr, which can disrupt classroom or social interactions.

iii. Weak Emotional Regulation: Managing emotions effectively is another executive function, and ADHD children often find it difficult to regulate their feelings, leading to outbursts, frustration, and difficulty coping with stress.


b. Distractibility and Inattention:


The core symptom of inattention in ADHD can significantly impact a child's ability to meet expectations. They may become easily distracted by their surroundings or internal thoughts, making it difficult to sustain focus on tasks, whether academic,behaviourall, or household-related.


c. Time Blindness:


Many ADHD children struggle with "time blindness," making it challenging to estimate time accurately. This can lead to difficulties in time management, punctuality, and following schedules.


d. Sensory Sensitivities:


Some ADHD children may also have sensory sensitivities, which can make it challenging to meet expectationsin overwhelming environments due to sensory stimuli.


e. Comorbid Conditions:


ADHD often co-occurs with other conditions, such as anxiety or learning disabilities, which can furthercompound children'ss challenges in meeting expectations.


3. Helping ADHD Children Enhance Executive Function Skills: The Collaborative and Proactive Solutions Model by Dr. Ross Greene


Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) model offers a compassionate and effective approach to help ADHD children enhance their executive function skills. The CPS model focuses on collaborative problem-solving, recognising that challenging behaviours stem from unmet expectations and lagging skills rather than intentional misbehaviour. Here's how you can apply the CPS model to support your child:


a. Identify Unsolved Problems:


Start by identifying specific situations or expectations where your child is struggling. These can be academic,behaviourall, or household-related. The key is to pinpoint the unsolved problems that are causing distress for your child.


b. Collaborative Problem-Solving:


Engage your child in a collaborative problem-solving process. Dr. Greeneemphasisess the importance of involving the child insolvingo the identified problems. This approach fosters communication and empowers the child to take an active role in resolving difficulties.


c. Empathy and Understanding:


Show empathy and understanding towards your child's challenges.Recognisee that they are not intentionally choosing to struggle but are grappling with real difficulties in executive functioning. A supportive and understanding attitude can make a world of difference.


d. Teach Executive Function Skills:


Once you've identified the specific executive function skills that are lagging, work with your child to teach and develop these skills. This can include strategies fororganisationn, time management, emotional regulation, and impulse control.


e. Flexibility in Expectations:


Be flexible in your expectations. Recognize that your child may need additional time, support, or accommodations to meet certain expectations. Adjust expectations as needed, keeping in mind your child's developmental level and unique challenges.


f. Consistency and Routine:


Establish consistent routines and structures at home and in school. Consistency can help provide a sense of predictability for ADHD children, making it easier for them to navigate daily tasks.


g. Seek Professional Help:


Consider seeking the assistance of a trained parent consultant, therapist or coach who specialises in ADHD or behavioural challenges. They can provide guidance, strategies, and support for you and your child.


h. Medication and Other Interventions:


In some cases, medication may be recommended as part of the treatment plan for ADHD. Consult with a healthcare professional to explore medication options if appropriate.


ADHD children often struggle to meet certain expectations due to their unique challenges in executive function skills, distractibility, time blindness, and other associated difficulties. It's essential for parents, teachers, and caregivers to understand that these challenges are not intentional misbehaviour but a result of neurobiological differences.


Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) model offers a compassionate and effective approach to help these children enhance their executive function skills and meet expectations. By identifying unsolved problems, collaborating with the child, teaching necessary skills, and being flexible in expectations, parents and educators can provide the support needed to help ADHD children thrive academically, behaviourally, and daily through patience, and behavioural understanding,


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Supporting ADHD Children to meet our expectations through collaborative problem-solving


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